Some Of Those That Work Forces...
OK, so I seem to have everything on track - family, financially, love life all moving in the same directions. However, as my new love (hereinafter referred to as My Bookend) would say, "you can't overlook Little Black Raincloud Syndrome." What is that? When everything is going well, some little problem will sit itself right over your head and piss rain all over your parade.
That cloud has personified itself in a unnamed family member who has taken issue with our relationship. I'd like to give as little detail as possible so as to protect My Bookend from any undue embarrasment, but it is incredibly frustrating to have to deal with this unreasonable, controlling and manipulative person. To be fair, I have not met this person and they know nothing about me other than what has been relayed from The Bookend. It is hard to deny her happiness though which has been so evident since we started dating at the beginning of the year. So I cannot fathom what has launched this tirade against my involvement with My Bookend.
I suppose there are times in a life when your eyes finally open to what has been going on for sometime, It hurts when you see ugliness and hurtful actions from a person who purports to love you and have "your best interests" at stake. It hurts more to know that maybe the best thing to do is cut all ties with that person in order to save your sanity. But cutting strings only hurts a little while, compared to the lifelong pain of manipulation & mental cruelty.
posted by ResearchGuy® @ 7:23 AM
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5 Comments:
As adults we often forget that we get to play our lives by our own rules, after having lived by those of our parents, right or wrong.
Doing that, without malice, can be the best way to train someone else who doesn't know any better than to use passive/aggressive or manipulative behaviors. In other words, "This is how it's done or you do not get to play."
It's sad to think that anyone would want their own unhappiness to be the norm. It's sad to think that anyone would undermine someone else's happiness. It's even sadder to realize that we're more mature than the folks who are supposed to be!
Live your happiness and don't compromise THAT for anyone. And you can do that without burning bridges. Good luck!
hard to follow a statement by the universe. :rolls her eyes for effect: Just know that dark and ugly things appear when jealous people see something they want but can't have.
remain true to yourselves. and always in the moment. dont get dragged into the drama. its not your issue its theirs.
love is a mighty force. don't let it get tsunamied by someone else's ignorance. I am soo happy for you Peter! :hugz:
Little Black Raincloud Syndrome...I like that.
I hope this all works out with time. I like the idea I heard about "revenge by being happy."
...are the same that burn crosses...
You and your bookend only need concern yourselves with each other (and your kids). No reason that someone else's judgement and/or opinion of you (and the relationship) should allow that "little black rain cloud" to sit over your head. It's that person's cross to bear, not yours.
(I was going to bust out with the end of the song, but thought better of it... that's better reserved for extreme circumstances :wink:)
Methinks a truly enlightened person would realize that there are always two sides to a story. Something to think about by all those who judge without knowing all.
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